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Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 7:17 pm
by CrazyIslander
If the marriage/divorce was nasty. I was asked by a friend to accompany him to his ex mother in-law's funeral. Considering all the shit that happened (court cases, fist fights with her family, threats etc) I reckon he shouldn't go but he has two kids with ex wife.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 7:24 pm
by CrazyIslander
Advice plz.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 7:28 pm
by Yourmother
If he was invited and the deceased means something to him, he should go. Keep head down of course.

Then leave early in good manner.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 7:44 pm
by CrazyIslander
There was no official invitation he knew through his kids. The kids asked if he could make it.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 8:25 pm
by zt1903
Then he should ask his ex if it’s ok if he comes to pay his respects.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 9:07 pm
by Flametop
Turn up drunk and hit on your ex’s sister.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 9:14 pm
by Enzedder
zt1903 wrote:Then he should ask his ex if it’s ok if he comes to pay his respects.
This - it is his children's grand-parent and they have asked him to come. Yes, he should ask his ex and it may well turn into a time to put the bad bits behind them.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 9:21 pm
by Flametop
EverReady wrote:Exactly Flamer. This is where the travelling community in Ireland get it right. Funerals are a time to right wrongs and throw shapes. Get tanked up and bring game
Absolutely. 👍
Don’t forget to burn the gaff down afterwards.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 9:24 pm
by CrazyIslander
Enzedder wrote:
zt1903 wrote:Then he should ask his ex if it’s ok if he comes to pay his respects.
This - it is his children's grand-parent and they have asked him to come. Yes, he should ask his ex and it may well turn into a time to put the bad bits behind them.
He's hardly spoken yo his ex over the last 7yrs and the hate is mutual.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 9:25 pm
by CrazyIslander
His issue is the kids expecting him to come but they were very young when all the shit went down and don't understand.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 9:43 pm
by Uncle Fester
CrazyIslander wrote:His issue is the kids expecting him to come but they were very young when all the shit went down and don't understand.
Best to leave well alone so.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:07 pm
by Cullen
Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:11 pm
by CrazyIslander
Uncle Fester wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:His issue is the kids expecting him to come but they were very young when all the shit went down and don't understand.
Best to leave well alone so.
Yeah that's my advice. But he's intending on going that's why he asked me to go along.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:12 pm
by Anonymous 1
CrazyIslander wrote:If the marriage/divorce was nasty. I was asked by a friend to accompany him to his ex mother in-law's funeral. Considering all the shit that happened (court cases, fist fights with her family, threats etc) I reckon he shouldn't go but he has two kids with ex wife.
Rule 1

Just asking for a fat feline friend

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:17 pm
by CrazyIslander
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:19 pm
by CrazyIslander
Anonymous. wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:If the marriage/divorce was nasty. I was asked by a friend to accompany him to his ex mother in-law's funeral. Considering all the shit that happened (court cases, fist fights with her family, threats etc) I reckon he shouldn't go but he has two kids with ex wife.
Rule 1

Just asking for a fat feline friend
Of my friend or ex wife? I'd fvck the ex wife tbh. But I wouldn't fvck my mate though, he's not my type.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:20 pm
by Cullen
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
How are you still his friend if you were shagging his Mrs?

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:23 pm
by LandOTurk
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
Was the relationship since with the ex-in laws good or indifferent/bad? If good then ask the ex if you could go (especially as kids asked me to go, but don't say because the kids asked me to go (big difference). If the relationship since, was indifferent/bad then fcuk them. Tell the kids life gets more difficult when you are adults and they will understand when older.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:24 pm
by CrazyIslander
Cullen wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
How are you still his friend if you were shagging his Mrs?
:lol: Actually that was a hypothetical situation.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:26 pm
by CrazyIslander
LandOTurk wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
Was the relationship since with the ex-in laws good or indifferent/bad? If good then ask the ex if you could go (especially as kids asked me to go, but don't say because the kids asked me to go (big difference). If the relationship since, was indifferent/bad then fcuk them. Tell the kids life gets more difficult when you are adults and they will understand when older.
Would you believe that it waa worse after divorce? Especially involving the kids and property.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sat May 25, 2019 10:28 pm
by Anonymous 1
Cullen wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
How are you still his friend if you were shagging his Mrs?
:lol:

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 12:09 am
by LandOTurk
CrazyIslander wrote:
LandOTurk wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
Was the relationship since with the ex-in laws good or indifferent/bad? If good then ask the ex if you could go (especially as kids asked me to go, but don't say because the kids asked me to go (big difference). If the relationship since, was indifferent/bad then fcuk them. Tell the kids life gets more difficult when you are adults and they will understand when older.
Would you believe that it waa worse after divorce? Especially involving the kids and property.
Are you talking about the ex-in laws?
Are you saying your relationship with them was not great but got a lot worse after divorce.
If so, sorry for your kids but fcuk the ex-in laws!

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 1:07 am
by Bokkom
How old are the kids?
How is the relationship between him and them? I think he should just tell them it is a bit of a dilemma and stay away.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 1:41 am
by CrazyIslander
LandOTurk wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:
LandOTurk wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
Was the relationship since with the ex-in laws good or indifferent/bad? If good then ask the ex if you could go (especially as kids asked me to go, but don't say because the kids asked me to go (big difference). If the relationship since, was indifferent/bad then fcuk them. Tell the kids life gets more difficult when you are adults and they will understand when older.
Would you believe that it waa worse after divorce? Especially involving the kids and property.
Are you talking about the ex-in laws?
Are you saying your relationship with them was not great but got a lot worse after divorce.
If so, sorry for your kids but fcuk the ex-in laws!
I meant mate's relationship with ex and whole family got worse.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 1:44 am
by CrazyIslander
Bokkom wrote:How old are the kids?
How is the relationship between him and them? I think he should just tell them it is a bit of a dilemma and stay away.
With kids? Great . Or with In-laws? Nasty. I really don't think he should do it.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 2:10 am
by jdogscoop
Anonymous. wrote:
Cullen wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
How are you still his friend if you were shagging his Mrs?
:lol:
+ :lol:

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 2:26 am
by Dark
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
"He" sound like he is carrying a load of emotional baggage and should definitely ask the ex first, rather than rocking up with the kids asking him as an excuse and causing a shittier time for the family who are having to bury their mother as it is, and probably don't want to have to deal with that on top.

The kids will get over it. Take them out for lunch and call it a celebration of their gran's life and make it a yearly thing

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 2:26 am
by happyhooker
Take a pigeon with you.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 2:57 am
by CrazyIslander
Dark wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:
Cullen wrote:Best to ask the ex first.
See if he could be of help with his kids transport or support.
Otherwise support the kids before/after/the next day away from the ex

On a side note I never really understood the bitter divorce situation. You were married, had kids then it didn’t work out. Just separate respectfully.
It's more complicated I guess. Betrayal, being treated like a fool, economics etc. Imagine being the breadwinner whilst your wife was fvcking the local idiot. Then she divorces you and expects you to move out so the idiot can move in.
"He" sound like he is carrying a load of emotional baggage and should definitely ask the ex first, rather than rocking up with the kids asking him as an excuse and causing a shittier time for the family who are having to bury their mother as it is, and probably don't want to have to deal with that on top.

The kids will get over it. Take them out for lunch and call it a celebration of their gran's life and make it a yearly thing
"He"? No its not me, I'm still happily married although my in-laws are a pain I live in a different city so it's ok. I think he's been competing for affection from kids and doesn't want to let them down somewhat. Kids naturally are closer to the mother I find. Over time I think that can change.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 2:58 am
by CrazyIslander
happyhooker wrote:Take a pigeon with you.
I am the pigeon - wingman at a funeral.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 4:20 am
by Kiwias
Assuming the kids get on with your ex and her parents, I would have them contact their mother and let her know you will take them there and pick them up but there is no way I would attend.

Then I'd take the kids out for a lovely remembrance lunch. so they can share their feelings about their grandma with you.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 4:33 am
by booji boy
CrazyIslander wrote:
Bokkom wrote:How old are the kids?
How is the relationship between him and them? I think he should just tell them it is a bit of a dilemma and stay away.
With kids? Great . Or with In-laws? Nasty. I really don't think he should do it.
So he has a bitter, hateful relationship with his ex and his relationship with the in laws is nasty? No way he should be going anywhere near the funeral except to drop off and pick up the kids.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 8:29 am
by obelixtim
Make sure he takes some garlic to throw into the hole on top of the coffin....

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 9:51 am
by redderneck
Man has solid chance to avoid a shitstorm. Man wonders whether he should plough right into it.

Observers nod sagely and agree with one another that this guy's ex-wife wasn't fcuking the biggest idiot in the locality after all.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 9:58 am
by jdogscoop
redderneck wrote:Man has solid chance to avoid a shitstorm. Man wonders whether he should plough right into it.

Observers nod sagely and agree with one another that this guy's ex-wife wasn't fcuking the biggest idiot in the locality after all.
:lol: Naiiiiiled it.

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 12:18 pm
by CrazyIslander
:lol:

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 5:04 pm
by frillage
Get him to give a short eulogy
“She will be sorely missed, was better in bed than her daughter”

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 7:59 pm
by Openside
CrazyIslander wrote:If the marriage/divorce was nasty. I was asked by a friend to accompany him to his ex mother in-law's funeral. Considering all the shit that happened (court cases, fist fights with her family, threats etc) I reckon he shouldn't go but he has two kids with ex wife.

If my ex croaked I wouldn't go unless specifically asked by my kids - the In Laws no fecking chance!!

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 8:08 pm
by houtkabouter
Openside wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:If the marriage/divorce was nasty. I was asked by a friend to accompany him to his ex mother in-law's funeral. Considering all the shit that happened (court cases, fist fights with her family, threats etc) I reckon he shouldn't go but he has two kids with ex wife.

If my ex croaked I wouldn't go unless specifically asked by my kids - the In Laws no fecking chance!!
It’s more difficult when the breadwinner is the village idiot ;)

Re: Going to funeral of ex in-laws

Posted: Sun May 26, 2019 8:43 pm
by message #2527204
houtkabouter wrote:
Openside wrote:
CrazyIslander wrote:If the marriage/divorce was nasty. I was asked by a friend to accompany him to his ex mother in-law's funeral. Considering all the shit that happened (court cases, fist fights with her family, threats etc) I reckon he shouldn't go but he has two kids with ex wife.

If my ex croaked I wouldn't go unless specifically asked by my kids - the In Laws no fecking chance!!
It’s more difficult when the breadwinner is the village idiot ;)
Sounds as though she is serially into village idiots. Why the fudge would he want to go? What possible good can come of it?