PR Depression, Anxiety and Suicidal

EverReady · Post by **EverReady** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 9:54 am

Thanks all. Haven't even told most of our family so in for a sad oul week really I'd say. Anyway I will be averagely brave in the face of it

MrJonno · Post by **MrJonno** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 10:40 am

Sorry to hear ER, best of luck.

YOYO wrote:
Floppykid wrote:
EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that
Very sorry to hear it ER.
All I can say from my experience is things can be an absolute emotional roller coaster with the big C.
The doctors and every level of medical staff have been excellent though, so I trust you'll be in good hands.

You'll be licking gee again in no time.
That’s excellent news Fkd.

Yoyo, you seem over invested in ERs gee licking

Winnie · Post by **Winnie** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 11:32 am

EverReady wrote:Thanks all. Haven't even told most of our family so in for a sad oul week really I'd say. Anyway I will be averagely brave in the face of it

All the best ER like everyone on the bored I’m rooting for you in your fight

EverReady · Post by **EverReady** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 1:04 pm

Thanks Winnie

YOYO · Post by **YOYO** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 7:26 pm

MrJonno, I and I’m sure all of us want to see ER back gee licking as good as ever as soon as possible.
The bored needs zaniness to break up the mundane, and ER is pretty zany.

HKCJ · Post by **HKCJ** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 7:36 pm

Best of wishes to you both floppy and ER.

(On second reading that sounds like it’s either their birthday or they are a gay couple who just got engaged so not the exact pithy and sombre mood I was after)

alliswell · Post by **alliswell** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 7:58 pm

EverReady wrote:Thanks all. Haven't even told most of our family so in for a sad oul week really I'd say. Anyway I will be averagely brave in the face of it

That's crappy news. Best of luck you good man.

redderneck · Post by **redderneck** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 8:24 pm

Ah shite.

I'd say chin up, but I wouldn't want to be accused of telling an expert how best to do what they clearly do best.

Short Man Syndrome · Post by **Short Man Syndrome** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 8:44 pm

Eeiiiish... best wishes to you both, FK and ER.

Tomorrow is the one year anniversary of losing my father to cancer (and also, because my father had a wicked sense of timing, their wedding anniversary) and my mother has started saying very dark and depressed things, commensurate with the overwhelming grief she is feeling all over again.

Bad times.

Sensible Stephen · Post by **Sensible Stephen** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 11:26 pm

EverReady wrote:Thanks all. Haven't even told most of our family so in for a sad oul week really I'd say. Anyway I will be averagely brave in the face of it

My boss had throat cancer about 2 years ago. Was pretty damn serious. She had chemo, radiation, got half her tongue and what not cut out. Shes back at work now, cancer free. Knocked her around quite a bit, she was over weight, now shes underweight, but she is back to living a happy normal life.

Might be a rough journey ahead, but chin up, good chance you will come out of it smelling like roses.

YOYO · Post by **YOYO** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 11:43 pm

How about positive vibes lads and lassies!!! Like if you have scrotum cancer you probably don’t want to hear a story about your best friends uncle Jim having it amputated!

Sensible Stephen · Post by **Sensible Stephen** » Sun Mar 31, 2019 11:59 pm

YOYO wrote:How about positive vibes lads and lassies!!! Like if you have scrotum cancer you probably don’t want to hear a story about your best friends uncle Jim having it amputated!

Why? Just lop your scrotum off and become a woman. Its the in thing.

YOYO · Post by **YOYO** » Mon Apr 01, 2019 12:06 am

Sensible Stephen wrote:
YOYO wrote:How about positive vibes lads and lassies!!! Like if you have scrotum cancer you probably don’t want to hear a story about your best friends uncle Jim having it amputated!
Why? Just lop your scrotum off and become a woman. Its the in thing.

I see the bright side if it now. Become a lesbian.

Post by **ZappaMan** » Mon Apr 01, 2019 7:42 pm

EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that

Yerra, balls.

Sorry to hear that. You're a tough lad - you'll bate the shite out of it. I've no doubt.

Stay strong, lad.

EverReady · Post by **EverReady** » Mon Apr 01, 2019 11:11 pm

Thanks Zappa. Grand place this really

Salanya · Post by **Salanya** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 1:58 pm

On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews?

backrow · Post by **backrow** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 2:04 pm

Salanya wrote:On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews?

very little is worse than this tbf
it kills your confidence, distracts you from your current role (if you have one), and the endless geeing yourself up process so that you appear to be a good candidate - gaaaaah !

my tip for this whole process is not to try to smash through loads of aplications in one hit, don't feel bad about zapping a 'jobs you may like' auto email in case you miss a goodie, and just liken it to going out on the pull and yes you will get blown out a lot, but the next one you ask may well be 'the one'

hopefully this will cheer you up Salanya:

Spoiler: show

Salanya · Post by **Salanya** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 2:15 pm

Is that really you Yeeb?!

- Good luck with the new job.

I resigned from my job, and now have 2 weeks left to find a new job and a new home. So the circumstances are the killer here.

Had a second interview last week, but still haven't heard back - apparently the GM is away. Got an interview tomorrow, and had a call that I would get details for an interview on Thursday, but still haven't received the info for this. And then another interview next Tuesday. All decent jobs, but some are better locations or pay better.
It's the whole mindfuk on the possible scenarios: what if they offer this before the other interview, what if I don't hear back from them, am I actually going to be good at any of these jobs?

Diego · Post by **Diego** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 2:15 pm

Salanya wrote:On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews?

Absolutely nothing.

Post by **ZappaMan** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 2:18 pm

Diego wrote:
Salanya wrote:On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews?
Absolutely nothing.

A firm kick to the goolies?

Diego · Post by **Diego** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 2:18 pm

ZappaMan wrote:
Diego wrote:
Salanya wrote:On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews?
Absolutely nothing.
A firm kick to the goolies?

Depends who's applying it.

Salanya · Post by **Salanya** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 2:19 pm

Diego wrote:
Salanya wrote:On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews?
Absolutely nothing.

Well, actually, there are many things. Leavy's injury puts things into perspective a bit

And then there's ER's challenge to fight the cancer, or things like miscarriages etc.

But as common mental health tests go, it has to be up there.

happyhooker · Post by **happyhooker** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 2:24 pm

ZappaMan wrote:
Diego wrote:
Salanya wrote:On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews?
Absolutely nothing.
A firm kick to the goolies?

You had me at hello

Winnie · Post by **Winnie** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 3:03 pm

Salanya wrote:Is that really you Yeeb?! - Good luck with the new job.

I resigned from my job, and now have 2 weeks left to find a new job and a new home. So the circumstances are the killer here.

Had a second interview last week, but still haven't heard back - apparently the GM is away. Got an interview tomorrow, and had a call that I would get details for an interview on Thursday, but still haven't received the info for this. And then another interview next Tuesday. All decent jobs, but some are better locations or pay better.
It's the whole mindfuk on the possible scenarios: what if they offer this before the other interview, what if I don't hear back from them, am I actually going to be good at any of these jobs?

Why would you resign from a job without another one in place
That strikes me as a bit careless

YOYO · Post by **YOYO** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 3:16 pm

Winnie wrote:
Salanya wrote:Is that really you Yeeb?! - Good luck with the new job.

I resigned from my job, and now have 2 weeks left to find a new job and a new home. So the circumstances are the killer here.

Had a second interview last week, but still haven't heard back - apparently the GM is away. Got an interview tomorrow, and had a call that I would get details for an interview on Thursday, but still haven't received the info for this. And then another interview next Tuesday. All decent jobs, but some are better locations or pay better.
It's the whole mindfuk on the possible scenarios: what if they offer this before the other interview, what if I don't hear back from them, am I actually going to be good at any of these jobs?
Why would you resign from a job without another one in place
That strikes me as a bit careless

Maybe she could take no more? One reaches the end point and has to get out? I can imagine this does happen.

Winnie · Post by **Winnie** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 3:20 pm

YOYO wrote:
Winnie wrote:
Salanya wrote:Is that really you Yeeb?! - Good luck with the new job.

I resigned from my job, and now have 2 weeks left to find a new job and a new home. So the circumstances are the killer here.

Had a second interview last week, but still haven't heard back - apparently the GM is away. Got an interview tomorrow, and had a call that I would get details for an interview on Thursday, but still haven't received the info for this. And then another interview next Tuesday. All decent jobs, but some are better locations or pay better.
It's the whole mindfuk on the possible scenarios: what if they offer this before the other interview, what if I don't hear back from them, am I actually going to be good at any of these jobs?
Why would you resign from a job without another one in place
That strikes me as a bit careless
Maybe she could take no more? One reaches the end point and has to get out? I can imagine this does happen.

Doesnt sound like it
Sounds like a woman who cant make up her mind to me

Salanya · Post by **Salanya** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 3:26 pm

Winnie wrote:
Salanya wrote:Is that really you Yeeb?! - Good luck with the new job.

I resigned from my job, and now have 2 weeks left to find a new job and a new home. So the circumstances are the killer here.

Had a second interview last week, but still haven't heard back - apparently the GM is away. Got an interview tomorrow, and had a call that I would get details for an interview on Thursday, but still haven't received the info for this. And then another interview next Tuesday. All decent jobs, but some are better locations or pay better.
It's the whole mindfuk on the possible scenarios: what if they offer this before the other interview, what if I don't hear back from them, am I actually going to be good at any of these jobs?
Why would you resign from a job without another one in place
That strikes me as a bit careless

Maybe the job caused a mental burn out, which my manager was keen to enflame further, and I was too proud to admit to it and take sick leave and get the Union to support me?

backrow · Post by **backrow** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 4:18 pm

Winnie wrote:
YOYO wrote:
Winnie wrote:
Salanya wrote:Is that really you Yeeb?! - Good luck with the new job.

I resigned from my job, and now have 2 weeks left to find a new job and a new home. So the circumstances are the killer here.

Had a second interview last week, but still haven't heard back - apparently the GM is away. Got an interview tomorrow, and had a call that I would get details for an interview on Thursday, but still haven't received the info for this. And then another interview next Tuesday. All decent jobs, but some are better locations or pay better.
It's the whole mindfuk on the possible scenarios: what if they offer this before the other interview, what if I don't hear back from them, am I actually going to be good at any of these jobs?
Why would you resign from a job without another one in place
That strikes me as a bit careless
Maybe she could take no more? One reaches the end point and has to get out? I can imagine this does happen.
Doesnt sound like it
Sounds like a woman who cant make up her mind to me

Um- may I suggest this isn't the thread to have a go at someone about anything, whether its a career choice or whatever the subject ?
she's just had the shock of me being nice closely followed by the utter disappointment of not even get to see my Ascii jazzing cock - you should give her a break imho.

Spoiler: show

happyhooker · Post by **happyhooker** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 4:19 pm

Yeeb, are you okay?

backrow · Post by **backrow** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 4:21 pm

yes hun

LeinsterLion · Post by **LeinsterLion** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 6:08 pm

Shit Everready, that sucks but you go this. You'll kick the big C's ass.

Having had a few friends in similar situations I will suggest one thing: when things are tough (and there will be times), don't just bottle it up and pretend everything's ok. Even if it's just to vent on here, on this thread, let it out. Same as everything else we talk about on here, you need some outlet to vent.

Salanya wrote:Maybe the job caused a mental burn out, which my manager was keen to enflame further, and I was too proud to admit to it and take sick leave and get the Union to support me?

You make it sound like a bad thing and are criticising yourself, for something that was a brave and needed call. Big yourself up - you had enough and you weren't willing to take it any more and you did what you had to do, what was best for you: you left. So many in that situation would just put their head down and suffer in silence. You decided to get out. That's not a bad thing, it was brave and good on you. Remember that regardless of what else may happen.

LeinsterLion · Post by **LeinsterLion** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 6:08 pm

yeeb

Winnie · Post by **Winnie** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 6:11 pm

LeinsterLion wrote:yeeb

Salanya · Post by **Salanya** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 6:33 pm

Cheers Leinsterlion, though in fairness I suffered in silence for a good 6 months - it was only once things got tricky that I pulled the trigger. Two interviews this week, and one next week, and still to hear back from one other, so fingers crossed something will come good.
Oh, and I should probably add to the circumstances that I have emigrated so don't have the option to hide with my parents or family, and we're in the middle of a Brexit situation. Luckily there are some friends and a dodgy rugby forum to count on...

Winnie: remember this as the day that you were a bigger dick than Yeeb, shame on you.

LeinsterLion · Post by **LeinsterLion** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 6:48 pm

See, you're still not letting yourself be praised or be proud!

That's understandable. But from the outside looking in: "though in fairness" nothing. You got out. You did right by you. That wasn't easy - even more so after 6 months of grinning and bearing it. Good on ya.

And yeah, do lean on and hide out with dicks on rugby forums, it's surprisingly helpful

slick · Post by **slick** » Tue Apr 02, 2019 7:31 pm

EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that

Sorry to hear this mate, but look forward to a beer in Edinburgh or your place once you have comprehensively kicked it’s arse

Salanya · Post by **Salanya** » Wed Apr 24, 2019 9:41 pm

LeinsterLion wrote:See, you're still not letting yourself be praised or be proud! That's understandable. But from the outside looking in: "though in fairness" nothing. You got out. You did right by you. That wasn't easy - even more so after 6 months of grinning and bearing it. Good on ya.

And yeah, do lean on and hide out with dicks on rugby forums, it's surprisingly helpful

Never got to say Thank You for the kind words LeinsterLion

Hasn't helped me to find a job yet though. To the point of questioning what I'd actually enjoy in a job. Most jobs include working with people in some form, which is a depressing thought.

And yes, I'm quite aware that in the olden days, people didn't have as high an expectation of a job for it to be
'enjoyable'. But it's 2019, when one expects a job to be 'rewarding' and/or 'enjoyable'.

danthefan · Post by **danthefan** » Wed Apr 24, 2019 9:43 pm

EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that

fudge. Sorry to hear that, all the best.

EverReady · Post by **EverReady** » Wed Apr 24, 2019 11:47 pm

Thanks slick and dan. All ticking along and it turns out I have a less shit sexy version so in with a very very good chance of being grand. Starting treatment in 2 weeks and while it sounds pretty shit I should make it and maybe even have more attractive facial features

redderneck · Post by **redderneck** » Wed Apr 24, 2019 11:57 pm

Huge thumbs up for less shit, sexy versions. Never get enough of those ones. Go n-éirí leat ER.