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Kiwias wrote:
EverReady wrote:
Kiwias wrote:A close friend of my wife was diagnosed with cancer 21 days ago, apparently a rare type and one that spreads incredibly fast. She died yesterday at the age of 52 and this has not been good for my wife's depression. We will attend the wake in two days time and must admit I am not looking forward to it.

ER
Wishing you all the best mate in your battle. Kick the evil fucker in the balls once for me and once for my wife.
Will do :thumbup:
Good man. Ms. Kiwias wishes you all the best too.

I just checked and her friend had sarcoma.
Here I have that :x :lol:

Thanks LC. Treatment a bit brutal but tipping through it
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EverReady wrote:My wife was a little 'man uppish' for a few days :lol: Look the treatment is shite but unlike some of the people I am hanging out with the prognosis is good. I am going in and out to a cancer hospital in leafy Rathgar. The serenity is somewhat punctured by the sickness in the walls. The kids I see knocking around are good for any self pity. Actually on the radiotherapy machine they have all stickers for the kids and that gave me a big jolt of man up. They should show me one child each day
We've probably seen eachother when out there ER. :lol:
Good on ya man, that mask is no joke and neither is the radiation.
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Shite ER, read on in the thread and see your A&E horror. :uhoh: :lol:
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Floppykid wrote:
EverReady wrote:My wife was a little 'man uppish' for a few days :lol: Look the treatment is shite but unlike some of the people I am hanging out with the prognosis is good. I am going in and out to a cancer hospital in leafy Rathgar. The serenity is somewhat punctured by the sickness in the walls. The kids I see knocking around are good for any self pity. Actually on the radiotherapy machine they have all stickers for the kids and that gave me a big jolt of man up. They should show me one child each day
We've probably seen eachother when out there ER. :lol:
Good on ya man, that mask is no joke and neither is the radiation.
Have you had it done? Are we mask buddies :o
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EverReady wrote:
Floppykid wrote:
EverReady wrote:My wife was a little 'man uppish' for a few days :lol: Look the treatment is shite but unlike some of the people I am hanging out with the prognosis is good. I am going in and out to a cancer hospital in leafy Rathgar. The serenity is somewhat punctured by the sickness in the walls. The kids I see knocking around are good for any self pity. Actually on the radiotherapy machine they have all stickers for the kids and that gave me a big jolt of man up. They should show me one child each day
We've probably seen eachother when out there ER. :lol:
Good on ya man, that mask is no joke and neither is the radiation.
Have you had it done? Are we mask buddies :o
You and my mam are mask buddies (don't get any ideas), though it's brain radiation for her.
When she was initially taken in she had to run the James' A&E gauntlet herself.
Some young wan off her head on ket/yokes going mental in the room beside her, stripping all her clothes off and begging for Xanex so she could leave. :lol: :uhoh:
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Best of luck with the treatment ER, go easy on Floppy’s ma.
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:lol: to both. Is she far in?
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EverReady wrote::lol: to both. Is she far in?
She's finished the radiation.
The tumour was removed and then there was a 12 sessions of radiation for this.
She went through a very arduous 5 week radiation and Chemo for her original lung cancer.

They've left if open for highly localised radiation in the surgery cavity at a later date if/when cancerous cells start becoming detectable.
When it's secondary brain cancer treatment's limited unfortunately, chemo is there and ready to go possibly, but for now it's wait/see and hope. (first check in is in a week.)
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Floppykid wrote:
EverReady wrote::lol: to both. Is she far in?
She's finished the radiation.
The tumour was removed and then there was a 12 sessions of radiation for this.
She went through a very arduous 5 week radiation and Chemo for her original lung cancer.

They've left if open for highly localised radiation in the surgery cavity at a later date if/when cancerous cells start becoming detectable.
When it's secondary brain cancer treatment's limited unfortunately, chemo is there and ready to go possibly, but for now it's wait/see and hope. (first check in is in a week.)
Good luck!
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Thanks man, you too.

For myself I've piled on a shit tonne of weight.
So much so all my jocks are slipping down off my duck arse without a belt to hold them in place.
Saw some recent pictures and I've developed a right set of bangers that even show up through hoodies. :lol:
Without Jezza on anymore I might have a decent excuse to start taking up gym again.
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The stress of that you are allowed get a fat hole for a while
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I look like a f**king van driver.
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EverReady wrote:The stress of that you are allowed get a fat hole for a while
Oh one thing ER, it might not mean much right now as you're going through it and it may sound glib.
But radiation does work, it significantly reduced my mother's lung tumour to the point where it was operable and cleared off cancerous cells in her lung.
Each patient and case is obviously different, but yeah.
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Floppykid wrote:
EverReady wrote:The stress of that you are allowed get a fat hole for a while
Oh one thing ER, it might not mean much right now as you're going through it and it may sound glib.
But radiation does work, it significantly reduced my mother's lung tumour to the point where it was operable and cleared off cancerous cells in her lung.
Each patient and case is obviously different, but yeah.
Thanks Floppy. Third of the way through 35 bangs of it so light etc
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EverReady wrote:My wife was a little 'man uppish' for a few days :lol: Look the treatment is shite but unlike some of the people I am hanging out with the prognosis is good. I am going in and out to a cancer hospital in leafy Rathgar. The serenity is somewhat punctured by the sickness in the walls. The kids I see knocking around are good for any self pity. Actually on the radiotherapy machine they have all stickers for the kids and that gave me a big jolt of man up. They should show me one child each day
That's the main thing really. I spent time in one of those gaffs with very little real danger but others around were in much worse shape. Two room mates much older than me went the other way. Keep in there, you've definitely got the right attitude to get through it. Good luck with it all.
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Wasn't sure where to post this but needed to vent a bit. Got a message today that a friend of mine was in a serious car crash over in New York, thankfully he survived but 2 of the other passengers were killed. Irish guy and his US wife. Had met them a few times over there and they came to my 30th. Was really shook by the news, really chilled me to the core and feel absolutely awful. My friend has a suspected lacerated liver but he was the best of the 5 occupants of the car, which is something to be thankful for. But I can't help keep thinking if how traumatic it must have been, and this guy is one of life's good guys. Drunk driver apparently.

:((
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Bullettyme wrote:Wasn't sure where to post this but needed to vent a bit. Got a message today that a friend of mine was in a serious car crash over in New York, thankfully he survived but 2 of the other passengers were killed. Irish guy and his US wife. Had met them a few times over there and they came to my 30th. Was really shook by the news, really chilled me to the core and feel absolutely awful. My friend has a suspected lacerated liver but he was the best of the 5 occupants of the car, which is something to be thankful for. But I can't help keep thinking if how traumatic it must have been, and this guy is one of life's good guys. Drunk driver apparently.

:((
Jesus. Senseless tragedy.
Hope your friend makes an ok recovery both physically and mentally over time.
Was his wife in the vehicle?
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Sorry might have phrased that wrong. It was an Irish guy from Mayo that died, along with his American wife. They were friends of my friend. Drunk guy was some other driver in his Dodge Ram or something. Doesn't sound like they had much of a chance.
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EverReady wrote:
Kiwias wrote:
EverReady wrote:
Kiwias wrote:A close friend of my wife was diagnosed with cancer 21 days ago, apparently a rare type and one that spreads incredibly fast. She died yesterday at the age of 52 and this has not been good for my wife's depression. We will attend the wake in two days time and must admit I am not looking forward to it.

ER
Wishing you all the best mate in your battle. Kick the evil fucker in the balls once for me and once for my wife.
Will do :thumbup:
Good man. Ms. Kiwias wishes you all the best too.

I just checked and her friend had sarcoma.
Here I have that :x :lol:

Thanks LC. Treatment a bit brutal but tipping through it
Glad to hear the treatment is in progress
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I never thought I would ever post on this thread, but I believe I am experiencing anxiety for the first time.

About three weeks ago, there was a restructure at work. It is temporary restructure that is meant to be for 6 months. My reporting line changed, which means that I am now working away from my old team who are on a different level of the building. I had good relationships with them and always enjoyed their company. I am working next to people in the new team, and although they are nice people, I just don't feel a strong connection with them. I am also working on an important project largely by myself.

After a couple of weeks, I started feeling a sense of loneliness which is an unusual experience for me. Last week I experienced a migraine at work, which was my first migraine in 5 years. I also noticed that I experienced an acute feeling of loneliness when I attended a meeting in which I would usually attend with my old team. It felt like empty holes in my sides. I've kept in daily touch with my team and we exchange personal visits, and these have now become the highlight of my day.

Today, I experienced what can only be described as anxiety. I've never felt that feeling before. It felt like intense pins and needles in my body. I could also feel that my heart rate was up a fraction, and I had to leave the building twice to get some fresh air and try to bring myself back to normal.

I've started increasing my exercise output over the last week, and have started eating better food again. However, I am worried that these negative experiences are going to get worse, rather than better. The project that I am working on is about to amp up in volume and importance over the next few months. I largely enjoy the work, my problems lie with my current social context at work. My sleeping patterns aren't good at the moment, but that can be pretty normal for me anyway.

Next moves at work:

1. I am going to talk to an older guy at work, who has become my mentor and let him know what is going on for me, and see how he thinks I should handle the situation.

2. Following my talk with my mentor, I will also consider explaining the situation to my current manager, and ask if I can be relocated back with my old team but still report back to them for this work. I won't use the word 'anxiety' with her though, I will use softer language and simply say that I've become unhappy working away from my old team.

What are peoples' thoughts on this approach?
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What is your current manager like? Would it be any trouble to put you back to where you where before? This is just a 6 month temp situation that has you working elsewhere right?
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Tehui wrote:I

What are peoples' thoughts on this approach?
very similar to what I'm experiencing. Due to work drying up in the business unit I was in, I jumped to another team where there was an opportunity.

Big gamble as my contract was up and the other 3 team members all work in separate parts of the building.

I miss the banter and I am fairly close by.

Perfectly normal to feel anxious :thumbup:
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Harden up!!! wrote:What is your current manager like? Would it be any trouble to put you back to where you where before? This is just a 6 month temp situation that has you working elsewhere right?
The manager is good. And my feelings have nothing to do with that person. There may possibly be some trouble me going back to where I was physically, but it's nothing that can't be overcome by regular communication and travel between the floors.
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Tehui wrote:
Harden up!!! wrote:What is your current manager like? Would it be any trouble to put you back to where you where before? This is just a 6 month temp situation that has you working elsewhere right?
The manager is good. And my feelings have nothing to do with that person. There may possibly be some trouble me going back to where I was physically, but it's nothing that can't be overcome by regular communication and travel between the floors.
Would your new manager (and colleagues) not regard that as a vote against them?

I don't want to sound negative, but could you be storing up trouble for yourself? Even if you can convince them that it isn't the case, there is bound to be a lingering doubt. I think that it has to be very sensitively handled, otherwise you might build up resentment. You may be better off coming clean and describing your state of mind accurately. Perhaps if you go to a doctor and get some kind of formal diagnosis, you can use that to justify wanting to move without raising the suspicion that you might feel that your new workmates are inferior to your old team.

Obviously, I don't know how accurately I have read your situation, so I may be talking absolute kak, but it strikes me that you may need to be aware of the possibility of getting people's backs up, particularly if your circumstances mean that you are a bit of an outsider already.
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Rinkals wrote:
Tehui wrote:
Harden up!!! wrote:What is your current manager like? Would it be any trouble to put you back to where you where before? This is just a 6 month temp situation that has you working elsewhere right?
The manager is good. And my feelings have nothing to do with that person. There may possibly be some trouble me going back to where I was physically, but it's nothing that can't be overcome by regular communication and travel between the floors.
Would your new manager (and colleagues) not regard that as a vote against them?

I don't want to sound negative, but could you be storing up trouble for yourself? Even if you can convince them that it isn't the case, there is bound to be a lingering doubt. I think that it has to be very sensitively handled, otherwise you might build up resentment. You may be better off coming clean and describing your state of mind accurately. Perhaps if you go to a doctor and get some kind of formal diagnosis, you can use that to justify wanting to move without raising the suspicion that you might feel that your new workmates are inferior to your old team.

Obviously, I don't know how accurately I have read your situation, so I may be talking absolute kak, but it strikes me that you may need to be aware of the possibility of getting people's backs up, particularly if your circumstances mean that you are a bit of an outsider already.
I agree that it would need to be handled sensitively to avoid creating resentment. However, we do work in a place where people 'hot desk' and move around a lot so it's not that unusual.

I've just spend the entire night tossing & turning and I can't get to sleep. I think i better schedule an appointment with the doctor. I've never experienced anything quite like this before.
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Tehui wrote: I agree that it would need to be handled sensitively to avoid creating resentment. However, we do work in a place where people 'hot desk' and move around a lot so it's not that unusual.

I've just spend the entire night tossing & turning and I can't get to sleep. I think i better schedule an appointment with the doctor. I've never experienced anything quite like this before.
I suffer this quite a bit when going through stressful periods at work so I don't think it's that unusual. But seeing your doctor is the smart thing to do as your next step. Good luck and keep us posted. :thumbup:
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booji boy wrote:
Tehui wrote: I agree that it would need to be handled sensitively to avoid creating resentment. However, we do work in a place where people 'hot desk' and move around a lot so it's not that unusual.

I've just spend the entire night tossing & turning and I can't get to sleep. I think i better schedule an appointment with the doctor. I've never experienced anything quite like this before.
I suffer this quite a bit when going through stressful periods at work so I don't think it's that unusual. But seeing your doctor is the smart thing to do as your next step. Good luck and keep us posted. :thumbup:
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Tehui wrote:
Harden up!!! wrote:What is your current manager like? Would it be any trouble to put you back to where you where before? This is just a 6 month temp situation that has you working elsewhere right?
The manager is good. And my feelings have nothing to do with that person. There may possibly be some trouble me going back to where I was physically, but it's nothing that can't be overcome by regular communication and travel between the floors.
Sounds like you have a good plan in place, implement it and good luck, also as has been mentioned a visit to the doctor might be good, check your blood pressure at least.
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Lost my younger brother just over a week ago, totally unexpected was talking to him on the phone the night before, and have just got back from his funeral down south. He was 51 & had a young family 18 down to 4. Feeling shattered and not sure I've even processed it properly. Having trouble sleeping and have no real will to do anything. Feel selfish posting this as I'm not going through even a tenth of his wife & kids but just needed to type it out I guess.

Our work has EAP so may give them a call when I get back to work.
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Wignu wrote:Lost my younger brother just over a week ago, totally unexpected was talking to him on the phone the night before, and have just got back from his funeral down south. He was 51 & had a young family 18 down to 4. Feeling shattered and not sure I've even processed it properly. Having trouble sleeping and have no real will to do anything. Feel selfish posting this as I'm not going through even a tenth of his wife & kids but just needed to type it out I guess.

Our work has EAP so may give them a call when I get back to work.
Sorry for your loss. Don't ever feel guilty for your feelings, especially how you're feeling now mate.
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Wignu wrote:Lost my younger brother just over a week ago, totally unexpected was talking to him on the phone the night before, and have just got back from his funeral down south. He was 51 & had a young family 18 down to 4. Feeling shattered and not sure I've even processed it properly. Having trouble sleeping and have no real will to do anything. Feel selfish posting this as I'm not going through even a tenth of his wife & kids but just needed to type it out I guess.

Our work has EAP so may give them a call when I get back to work.
Condolences mate. Nothing selfish about your post at all. Best wishes and may your younger brother RIP.

I lost my little sister in law a couple of years ago and this forum was a great sounding board when I was at my lowest ebb. :(( :thumbup:
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Tehui wrote:I never thought I would ever post on this thread, but I believe I am experiencing anxiety for the first time.

About three weeks ago, there was a restructure at work. It is temporary restructure that is meant to be for 6 months. My reporting line changed, which means that I am now working away from my old team who are on a different level of the building. I had good relationships with them and always enjoyed their company. I am working next to people in the new team, and although they are nice people, I just don't feel a strong connection with them. I am also working on an important project largely by myself.

After a couple of weeks, I started feeling a sense of loneliness which is an unusual experience for me. Last week I experienced a migraine at work, which was my first migraine in 5 years. I also noticed that I experienced an acute feeling of loneliness when I attended a meeting in which I would usually attend with my old team. It felt like empty holes in my sides. I've kept in daily touch with my team and we exchange personal visits, and these have now become the highlight of my day.

Today, I experienced what can only be described as anxiety. I've never felt that feeling before. It felt like intense pins and needles in my body. I could also feel that my heart rate was up a fraction, and I had to leave the building twice to get some fresh air and try to bring myself back to normal.

I've started increasing my exercise output over the last week, and have started eating better food again. However, I am worried that these negative experiences are going to get worse, rather than better. The project that I am working on is about to amp up in volume and importance over the next few months. I largely enjoy the work, my problems lie with my current social context at work. My sleeping patterns aren't good at the moment, but that can be pretty normal for me anyway.

Next moves at work:

1. I am going to talk to an older guy at work, who has become my mentor and let him know what is going on for me, and see how he thinks I should handle the situation.

2. Following my talk with my mentor, I will also consider explaining the situation to my current manager, and ask if I can be relocated back with my old team but still report back to them for this work. I won't use the word 'anxiety' with her though, I will use softer language and simply say that I've become unhappy working away from my old team.

What are peoples' thoughts on this approach?
This is a thing you don't want to be caught up in for too long

Basically you can get caught in a trap of explaining shit to someone who doesn't take in what you are actually doing totally because it is probably legacy (guessing) from the other lot.

I would encourage you to ask whoever the new boss is what others are working on and try to get involved on the side, if poss.
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Wignu wrote:Lost my younger brother just over a week ago, totally unexpected was talking to him on the phone the night before, and have just got back from his funeral down south. He was 51 & had a young family 18 down to 4. Feeling shattered and not sure I've even processed it properly. Having trouble sleeping and have no real will to do anything. Feel selfish posting this as I'm not going through even a tenth of his wife & kids but just needed to type it out I guess.

Our work has EAP so may give them a call when I get back to work.
Losing a sibling is a very big deal, condolences to your family and yourself, i would be devestated if i lost any of mine, no need to feel guilty.
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booji boy wrote:
Tehui wrote: I agree that it would need to be handled sensitively to avoid creating resentment. However, we do work in a place where people 'hot desk' and move around a lot so it's not that unusual.

I've just spend the entire night tossing & turning and I can't get to sleep. I think i better schedule an appointment with the doctor. I've never experienced anything quite like this before.
I suffer this quite a bit when going through stressful periods at work so I don't think it's that unusual. But seeing your doctor is the smart thing to do as your next step. Good luck and keep us posted. :thumbup:
I saw a doctor today who has prescribed me sleep medication. He suspects most of my symptoms are due to major sleep deprivation. I probably mentioned this in an earlier post, but I've been averaging about 1 hour of sleep a day for the last week. He says that sleep deprivation can do some strange things to people. My heart tests came out normal so that was pleasing.

We'll see how I feel tomorrow after a decent sleep. Thanks to everyone for their constructive feedback.
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Wignu wrote:Lost my younger brother just over a week ago, totally unexpected was talking to him on the phone the night before, and have just got back from his funeral down south. He was 51 & had a young family 18 down to 4. Feeling shattered and not sure I've even processed it properly. Having trouble sleeping and have no real will to do anything. Feel selfish posting this as I'm not going through even a tenth of his wife & kids but just needed to type it out I guess.

Our work has EAP so may give them a call when I get back to work.
Condolences, mate. One week does not sound like enough time to process that sort of shock. Be gentle to yourself
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Tehui wrote:
booji boy wrote:
Tehui wrote: I agree that it would need to be handled sensitively to avoid creating resentment. However, we do work in a place where people 'hot desk' and move around a lot so it's not that unusual.

I've just spend the entire night tossing & turning and I can't get to sleep. I think i better schedule an appointment with the doctor. I've never experienced anything quite like this before.
I suffer this quite a bit when going through stressful periods at work so I don't think it's that unusual. But seeing your doctor is the smart thing to do as your next step. Good luck and keep us posted. :thumbup:
I saw a doctor today who has prescribed me sleep medication. He suspects most of my symptoms are due to major sleep deprivation. I probably mentioned this in an earlier post, but I've been averaging about 1 hour of sleep a week for the last week. He says that sleep deprivation can do some strange things to people. My heart tests came out normal so that was pleasing.

We'll see how I feel tomorrow after a decent sleep. Thanks to everyone for their constructive feedback.
:thumbup: Hope it does the trick.
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Wignu wrote:Lost my younger brother just over a week ago, totally unexpected was talking to him on the phone the night before, and have just got back from his funeral down south. He was 51 & had a young family 18 down to 4. Feeling shattered and not sure I've even processed it properly. Having trouble sleeping and have no real will to do anything. Feel selfish posting this as I'm not going through even a tenth of his wife & kids but just needed to type it out I guess.

Our work has EAP so may give them a call when I get back to work.
So sorry for your loss.

Make sure you catch up with EAP, never used them myself but friends swear by the benefit they’ve had utilising their expertise.
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Re: PR Depression, Anxiety and Suicidal

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EverReady wrote:Week 1 and a bit in. Not committing to weekly reports as I suspect I won't be arsed fairly quickly. Head and neck cancer treatment sucks and blows and then sucks again but sure tis what it tis. Last Thursday week they started by giving me a anti nausea and steroids in a drip for two hours and then sent me down all hooked up for my radiotherapy. As I am a massive girls knickers I don't like the feeling of being clamped to the table by the head while they zap me. Turns out I am actually ok with it. Image
They then brought me back upstairs wheeling the oul drip and put 100mg cisplatin chemo into me. Turns out this is the highest dose. I get it every three rather than one week and I know so about it. Said It is because I am young and fit, who is to argue, but I am not sure It is worth It. It f**ked me up from Tuesday to Thursday bad. Thought I was a different species and couldn't really move much . Lots of nausea and puking and shit. Wasn't actually able to watch or read anything for days. Would just lie there eyes closed focused on the moment. Not sexy though obviously I still look amazing. The neck tumour is now How to Get Ahead in Advertising big after each day of radio. I suspect by looking at people it may be talking to them but is remaining brutally silent with me. The burning of the throat by the radio is sore and the taste issues annoying but the weakness and nausea is the worst. Fingers crossed I am getting a break from the worst of that until week three. 7 radio sessions of 35 and 1 of 3 chemo and I can report standing again and a solid 6 out of 10 for cancer. HURRAH
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Re: PR Depression, Anxiety and Suicidal

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We are watching and some of us are praying. Good wishes from The Management and me.

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Re: PR Depression, Anxiety and Suicidal

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Wignu wrote:Lost my younger brother just over a week ago, totally unexpected was talking to him on the phone the night before, and have just got back from his funeral down south. He was 51 & had a young family 18 down to 4. Feeling shattered and not sure I've even processed it properly. Having trouble sleeping and have no real will to do anything. Feel selfish posting this as I'm not going through even a tenth of his wife & kids but just needed to type it out I guess.

Our work has EAP so may give them a call when I get back to work.
Condolences. Don't "may give them a call".

Call them.

My Mrs buried her twin brother quite a few years back, and struggled on and off with her feelings for the guts of ten years before taking advantage of a new employers EAP programme. A decent one is a godsend.

Make that call, please.
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