PR Depression, Anxiety and Suicidal

Floppykid · Post by **Floppykid** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 6:25 pm

HKCJ wrote:Best wishes to all those suffering from anxieties and difficulties. My wife is feeling terribly isolated with her family on the other side of the world in NZ and SA. I’ve tried to put things in perspective to her that things like WhatsApp and Skype have made it easier but I also get that in times like these you want your family around which is what I have so also feeling terribly guilty that we made the decision to move here.

Don't feel guilty, feel sad sure, but shit like this is completely unprecedented.

Salanya · Post by **Salanya** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 7:12 pm

Sending the likes of GW02, Ovallball and Nols best wishes - really tough situations, and it's hard when there isn't much you can do. Just take it by the day, and do the best you can do, in whatever shape or form those efforts may be. And don't be too hard on yourselves.

I haven't felt many changes yet from the situation, probably emphasising that I already lead a pretty isolating lifestyle (apart from work, but I don't even have many colleagues there at the moment).

ovalball · Post by **ovalball** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 7:56 pm

Salanya wrote:Sending the likes of GW02, Ovallball and Nols best wishes - really tough situations, and it's hard when there isn't much you can do. Just take it by the day, and do the best you can do, in whatever shape or form those efforts may be. And don't be too hard on yourselves.

I haven't felt many changes yet from the situation, probably emphasising that I already lead a pretty isolating lifestyle (apart from work, but I don't even have many colleagues there at the moment).

Thanks

I've decided to minimise watching the news - other than for the essential information - and I've stopped reading the main CoVid thread on here - far too depressing. We are in a far, far, better situation than most so we really shouldn't be feeling sorry for ourselves. We'll dig in for the duration and rely on all the great communication channels that are now available to us.

Floppykid · Post by **Floppykid** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 7:58 pm

ovalball wrote:
Salanya wrote:Sending the likes of GW02, Ovallball and Nols best wishes - really tough situations, and it's hard when there isn't much you can do. Just take it by the day, and do the best you can do, in whatever shape or form those efforts may be. And don't be too hard on yourselves.

I haven't felt many changes yet from the situation, probably emphasising that I already lead a pretty isolating lifestyle (apart from work, but I don't even have many colleagues there at the moment).
Thanks

I've decided to minimise watching the news - other than for the essential information - and I've stopped reading the main CoVid thread on here far too depressing. We are in a far, far, better situation than most so we really shouldn't be feeling sorry for ourselves. We'll dig in for the duration and rely on all the great communication channels that are now available to us.

Yup, that thread is the opposite of useful.
Anyone in their right mind should steer clear.

Nolanator · Post by **Nolanator** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 8:03 pm

Cheers Sal. Better news today, looks like he'll be back in the nursing home before the weekend.

I live a fairly isolated lifestyle outside of work, so I'll be grand once the restrictions kick in.

argus · Post by **argus** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 8:13 pm

HKCJ wrote:Best wishes to all those suffering from anxieties and difficulties. My wife is feeling terribly isolated with her family on the other side of the world in NZ and SA. I’ve tried to put things in perspective to her that things like WhatsApp and Skype have made it easier but I also get that in times like these you want your family around which is what I have so also feeling terribly guilty that we made the decision to move here.

Though your response to her was correct and practical , it likely is not what she wants to hear

Needs a shoulder to cry on and a hug and understanding

happyhooker · Post by **happyhooker** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 8:47 pm

argus wrote:
HKCJ wrote:Best wishes to all those suffering from anxieties and difficulties. My wife is feeling terribly isolated with her family on the other side of the world in NZ and SA. I’ve tried to put things in perspective to her that things like WhatsApp and Skype have made it easier but I also get that in times like these you want your family around which is what I have so also feeling terribly guilty that we made the decision to move here.
Though your response to her was correct and practical , it likely is not what she wants to hear

Needs a shoulder to cry on and a hug and understanding

Slick lives round the corner from hkcj

HKCJ · Post by **HKCJ** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 9:01 pm

happyhooker wrote:
argus wrote:
HKCJ wrote:Best wishes to all those suffering from anxieties and difficulties. My wife is feeling terribly isolated with her family on the other side of the world in NZ and SA. I’ve tried to put things in perspective to her that things like WhatsApp and Skype have made it easier but I also get that in times like these you want your family around which is what I have so also feeling terribly guilty that we made the decision to move here.
Though your response to her was correct and practical , it likely is not what she wants to hear

Needs a shoulder to cry on and a hug and understanding
Slick lives round the corner from hkcj

she has met him now too.. ‘quite normal for a weirdo from the internet’ is quite the ringing endorsement.

happyhooker · Post by **happyhooker** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 9:05 pm

HKCJ wrote:
happyhooker wrote:
argus wrote:
HKCJ wrote:Best wishes to all those suffering from anxieties and difficulties. My wife is feeling terribly isolated with her family on the other side of the world in NZ and SA. I’ve tried to put things in perspective to her that things like WhatsApp and Skype have made it easier but I also get that in times like these you want your family around which is what I have so also feeling terribly guilty that we made the decision to move here.
Though your response to her was correct and practical , it likely is not what she wants to hear

Needs a shoulder to cry on and a hug and understanding
Slick lives round the corner from hkcj
she has met him now too.. ‘quite normal for a weirdo from the internet’ is quite the ringing endorsement.

Ha! Did you tell her about that mate of hers who cancelled, went on the piss and accidentally met up with us?

booji boy · Post by **booji boy** » Mon Mar 16, 2020 9:22 pm

HKCJ wrote:
happyhooker wrote:
argus wrote:
HKCJ wrote:Best wishes to all those suffering from anxieties and difficulties. My wife is feeling terribly isolated with her family on the other side of the world in NZ and SA. I’ve tried to put things in perspective to her that things like WhatsApp and Skype have made it easier but I also get that in times like these you want your family around which is what I have so also feeling terribly guilty that we made the decision to move here.
Though your response to her was correct and practical , it likely is not what she wants to hear

Needs a shoulder to cry on and a hug and understanding
Slick lives round the corner from hkcj
she has met him now too.. ‘quite normal for a weirdo from the internet’ is quite the ringing endorsement.

It's funny. I was a member of a golf forum for years and its amazing the rapport your build up with fellow posters. In my travels I ended up meeting up with and playing golf with fellow members from London, San Diego, Melbourne and Tasmania.

My wife thought it was all rather weird but I wouldn't have had those opportunities otherwise. These types of forums can be lunatic asylums at times but there is also some real good stuff like this thread, quitting the bottle etc.

assfly · Post by **assfly** » Tue Mar 17, 2020 9:48 am

YOYO wrote:I’m doubting that many people on here have experience of treating their anxiety and depression with psychedelics. I did see a documentary along the lines of US scientists research into the use of psychedelics for the treatment of mental health conditions. The docu was based on research performed in the 70’s. It might be on Netflix.

Are you asking from a self medicating perspective or from a professional guided perspective?

There appears to be a resurgence in research around this which I find quite fascinating. Been watching a few Ted Talks about it too. Still not quite mainstream, but quite interesting especially if someone's mental health issue was caused by childhood trauma.

Definitely from a professional guided perspective, which is also becoming increasingly popular.

EverReady · Post by **EverReady** » Tue Mar 17, 2020 11:00 am

Hope all are as well as you can be with the current pressures. One year ago today I woke up with a fück off lump on my neck which turned out to be cancer. Then I later bored the tits off all of you with my treatment. Was a tough gig but it finished. Thanks and a fair example that even the really shit stuff passes

Reuser · Post by **Reuser** » Tue Mar 17, 2020 11:24 am

I just need to vent.
fudge this virus. I'm going to be self isolating for 12 weeks because I'm in the high risk group (ill for years and got a liver transplant 3 years ago. Very immunosuppressed)
I'm 27 and I'm supposed to be getting married and going on honey moon in May.
Instead I'm going to be alone, in my house without my wife. She's an A&E doctor and will be working throughout this pandemic. There's no way I can risk seeing her.
We're on the phone all the time but I miss the contact.
The worst part is that she has been feeling down lately and now I can't look after her properly.

AND-y · Post by **AND-y** » Tue Mar 17, 2020 11:24 am

Just keep going til Saint Dymphna kicks us out.

Edit - meant as a response to ER, not a glib one to you reuser.

There's a lot of people feeling like that at the moment and good on you for venting, it does help.

EverReady · Post by **EverReady** » Tue Mar 17, 2020 11:58 am

AND-y wrote:Just keep going til Saint Dymphna kicks us out.

Edit - meant as a response to ER, not a glib one to you reuser. There's a lot of people feeling like that at the moment and good on you for venting, it does help.

She's a good girl Dymphna and if she's not working there is always one of her saintly mates

Reuser · Post by **Reuser** » Tue Mar 17, 2020 12:06 pm

AND-y wrote:Just keep going til Saint Dymphna kicks us out.

Edit - meant as a response to ER, not a glib one to you reuser. There's a lot of people feeling like that at the moment and good on you for venting, it does help.

Yeah, I knew it was to ER
Being out of control of things is just frustrating. Especially with so much money, time and effort wrapped up in the wedding plans.

Reading Floppys posts, I hope you can hold it together for this hugely tough time man. In hindsight you won't regret devoting the time to your mum. My thoughts are with you

argus · Post by **argus** » Tue Mar 17, 2020 2:31 pm

Some tough to read stories here

My suggestion while people are isolated is to set up a number of zoom or face time chats during each day

Get away from the texting and talk

Floppykid · Post by **Floppykid** » Tue Mar 17, 2020 4:57 pm

Man In Black wrote:My suggestion for avoiding anxiety during this time is to avoid going on twitter, facebook or any social media including the coronavirus thread on PR.

Coronavirus thread in particular is not good for the head.
People are competing to be as morose as possible.

ovalball · Post by **ovalball** » Tue Mar 17, 2020 5:16 pm

I'm feeling a little bit more relaxed today, now that we've gone into 'Lockdown' and my sisters have done the same. I've only got one more essential trip to make which will be to MOT my car this week - and that should be very low risk. We'll be setting up regular video chats with my offspring - that'll help a bit.

Feel very sorry for all those in more difficult situations.

VBall · Post by **VBall** » Wed Mar 18, 2020 12:12 pm

I suffer from Health Anxiety. Sometimes the Black Dog is so strong. Every little ache, pain and change in my body puts my anxiety very high and death is around the corner. However since COVID I am feeling so much better. My mind is on other things and I do not have the time, or perhaps my focus has moved, to think about other aliments. I am possibly the best I have been for several years.

Others of course will be far different,

AND-y · Post by **AND-y** » Wed Mar 18, 2020 12:23 pm

Man In Black wrote:My suggestion for avoiding anxiety during this time is to avoid going on twitter, facebook or any social media .

That's just good advice in general!

C69 · Post by **C69** » Wed Mar 18, 2020 7:25 pm

Work is slightly anxiety provoking atm.

bimboman · Post by **bimboman** » Wed Mar 18, 2020 7:32 pm

c69 wrote:Work is slightly anxiety provoking atm.

Realistic depression or anxiety while not to be laughed at, isn’t the same as a medical condition.

DragsterDriver · Post by **DragsterDriver** » Wed Mar 18, 2020 7:59 pm

VBall wrote:I suffer from Health Anxiety. Sometimes the Black Dog is so strong. Every little ache, pain and change in my body puts my anxiety very high and death is around the corner. However since COVID I am feeling so much better. My mind is on other things and I do not have the time, or perhaps my focus has moved, to think about other aliments. I am possibly the best I have been for several years.

Others of course will be far different,

Same, funny enough. I’m really chilled about coronavirus- probably all the trial runs in my mind over the years.

Pat the Ex Mat · Post by **Pat the Ex Mat** » Thu Mar 19, 2020 1:11 pm

bimboman wrote:
c69 wrote:Work is slightly anxiety provoking atm.

Realistic depression or anxiety while not to be laughed at, isn’t the same as a medical condition.

None of that in this thread

AND-y · Post by **AND-y** » Thu Mar 19, 2020 1:19 pm

Pat the Ex Mat wrote:
bimboman wrote:
c69 wrote:Work is slightly anxiety provoking atm.

Realistic depression or anxiety while not to be laughed at, isn’t the same as a medical condition.
None of that in this thread

Indeed, as well as the fact he is talking bs. "Realistic depression and/or anxiety" can very much cause stress levels that lead to illness or disorder.

bimboman · Post by **bimboman** » Thu Mar 19, 2020 1:24 pm

AND-y wrote:
Pat the Ex Mat wrote:
bimboman wrote:
c69 wrote:Work is slightly anxiety provoking atm.

Realistic depression or anxiety while not to be laughed at, isn’t the same as a medical condition.
None of that in this thread
Indeed, as well as the fact he is talking bs. "Realistic depression and/or anxiety" can very much cause stress levels that lead to illness or disorder.

They can indeed and PTSD later on as well. This thread has changed purpose that’s all.

GWO2 · Post by **GWO2** » Fri May 01, 2020 11:06 pm

We have been in lock down in our house for the last seven weeks and it has been hard watching my wife slowly slip away. Her memory getting worse each day. Tonight she has just come down stairs, she goes up to bed at nine each night, and asked if I could make an appointment for her to see the doctor. When I asked why, she said she couldn`t remember things. I asked her what things and she burst into tears and said she couldn`t remember. She struggles to remember how to turn the TV on, to know what channel she likes. I explained she couldn`t see a doctor until Monday, but also he could not help her because she is already under a Dementia specialist. She started crying again and said You wont leave me will you? It really cracked me up and I burst into tears in front of her, something I never do. This upset her again and it took a couple of minutes to calm it all down. I have managed to get her back up to bed watching TV and she seems OK at the moment.This is really getting at me now and I`m in tears all the time.This is such a bastard of an illness to have to live with.

happyhooker · Post by **happyhooker** » Fri May 01, 2020 11:10 pm

jesus mate. i have nothing constructive to say, but thinking of you

feckwanker · Post by **feckwanker** » Fri May 01, 2020 11:56 pm

GWO2 wrote:We have been in lock down in our house for the last seven weeks and it has been hard watching my wife slowly slip away. Her memory getting worse each day. Tonight she has just come down stairs, she goes up to bed at nine each night, and asked if I could make an appointment for her to see the doctor. When I asked why, she said she couldn`t remember things. I asked her what things and she burst into tears and said she couldn`t remember. She struggles to remember how to turn the TV on, to know what channel she likes. I explained she couldn`t see a doctor until Monday, but also he could not help her because she is already under a Dementia specialist. She started crying again and said You wont leave me will you? It really cracked me up and I burst into tears in front of her, something I never do. This upset her again and it took a couple of minutes to calm it all down. I have managed to get her back up to bed watching TV and she seems OK at the moment.This is really getting at me now and I`m in tears all the time.This is such a bastard of an illness to have to live with.

My sincerest sympathies.

Kiwias · Post by **Kiwias** » Sat May 02, 2020 2:28 am

GW02

I too have no constructive words, just sympathy for you in a shit of a place

Tehui · Post by **Tehui** » Sat May 02, 2020 3:32 am

Sending love and support to all the people who post on this thread and need it at the moment.

mr bungle · Post by **mr bungle** » Sat May 02, 2020 3:50 am

Tehui wrote:Sending love and support to all the people who post on this thread and need it at the moment.

Gavin Duffy · Post by **Gavin Duffy** » Sat May 02, 2020 3:59 am

GWO2 wrote:We have been in lock down in our house for the last seven weeks and it has been hard watching my wife slowly slip away. Her memory getting worse each day. Tonight she has just come down stairs, she goes up to bed at nine each night, and asked if I could make an appointment for her to see the doctor. When I asked why, she said she couldn`t remember things. I asked her what things and she burst into tears and said she couldn`t remember. She struggles to remember how to turn the TV on, to know what channel she likes. I explained she couldn`t see a doctor until Monday, but also he could not help her because she is already under a Dementia specialist. She started crying again and said You wont leave me will you? It really cracked me up and I burst into tears in front of her, something I never do. This upset her again and it took a couple of minutes to calm it all down. I have managed to get her back up to bed watching TV and she seems OK at the moment.This is really getting at me now and I`m in tears all the time.This is such a bastard of an illness to have to live with.

You have my sincerest sympathies. GWO2. It is a truly horrible illness. I watched my father slip away over several years and did my best to help my mother keep him at home for as long as possible but it was a hard road.

kiwinoz · Post by **kiwinoz** » Sat May 02, 2020 4:42 am

I have been working from home for nearly 2 months now. In relation to work there is a lot more happening in terms of middle line managers trying to be relevant via virtual meetings etc. I have noticed that those who are working from home and are home schooling are really struggling especially trying to help their kids with school work whilst attending zoom calls and doing their jobs.

Pat the Ex Mat · Post by **Pat the Ex Mat** » Sat May 02, 2020 5:26 am

[quote="kiwinoz"]I have been working from home for nearly 2 months now. In relation to work there is a lot more happening in terms of middle line managers trying to be relevant via virtual meetings etc. I have noticed that those who are working from home and are home schooling are really struggling especially trying to help their kids with school work whilst attending zoom calls and doing their jobs.[/quote]

Oddly, I am quite fine with working from home - I have done it before so it's not that bad.

I'm loving the exposure of useless managers. With stuff like Teams, it really shows them up.

We've.adeed.in wellbeing channels and exercise into a work from home team

Rinkals · Post by **Rinkals** » Sat May 02, 2020 7:44 am

GWO2 wrote:We have been in lock down in our house for the last seven weeks and it has been hard watching my wife slowly slip away. Her memory getting worse each day. Tonight she has just come down stairs, she goes up to bed at nine each night, and asked if I could make an appointment for her to see the doctor. When I asked why, she said she couldn`t remember things. I asked her what things and she burst into tears and said she couldn`t remember. She struggles to remember how to turn the TV on, to know what channel she likes. I explained she couldn`t see a doctor until Monday, but also he could not help her because she is already under a Dementia specialist. She started crying again and said You wont leave me will you? It really cracked me up and I burst into tears in front of her, something I never do. This upset her again and it took a couple of minutes to calm it all down. I have managed to get her back up to bed watching TV and she seems OK at the moment.This is really getting at me now and I`m in tears all the time.This is such a bastard of an illness to have to live with.

Sorry to hear that, man.

I'm reduced to tears myself, just reading that.

mr bungle · Post by **mr bungle** » Sat May 02, 2020 8:13 am

Pat the Ex Mat wrote:
Oddly, I am quite fine with working from home - I have done it before so it's not that bad.

I'm loving the exposure of useless managers. With stuff like Teams, it really shows them up.

We've.adeed.in wellbeing channels and exercise into a work from home team

You have no children

Working from home is one thing, working from home with children is quite another. My wife and I found it a total pain in the arse over lockdown and we weren't working fulltime by any stretch.

Maybe some sympathy for those trying to parent and work from home fulltime.

Margin_Walker · Post by **Margin_Walker** » Sat May 02, 2020 8:16 am

Unimaginable situation to be in GWO2. Best Wishes

Margin_Walker · Post by **Margin_Walker** » Sat May 02, 2020 8:28 am

I was primarily a home worker before all this hit (one day a week in the office)

I've found this incredibly tough though as my wife and I are now trying to work full time and deal with a bored 3 year old as all our childcare options disappeared. Has coincided with an incredibly stressful project at work that I'm trying to handle. Working long hours and most weekends and actually experiencing physical stress related symptoms for the first time in a long time. Has improved slightly in the last week, but I'm definitely not enjoying life under lockdown.

I'm lucky though, it will pass and we're both in reasonably secure jobs.