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Get the order right...fill the car...propose...go buying the rock together...drive her home...ask her for a loan so you can get home...done.

Proposed the previous night...filled the car on the way to the rockshop...took Mrs T to the rock shop...told her anything on tray two and

three I could do...she chose one...cleaned me out...I drover her home to her place 250km away....asked her for a loan for more gas...

filled the car...drove back home....payday Tuesday....all good...still married 44 years later and going strong.
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Edinburgh01 wrote:
kiwigreg369 wrote:Cheaper to fly to SA on holiday - buy the ring there.
KG
Which is what we did. Worked out well.
Can you get a vat rebate if you do this? Which city?
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Duff Paddy wrote:
Edinburgh01 wrote:
kiwigreg369 wrote:Cheaper to fly to SA on holiday - buy the ring there.
KG
Which is what we did. Worked out well.
Can you get a vat rebate if you do this? Which city?
Any City. Get a VAT receipt from supplier, stand in a very long queue to present it (with the ring in hand!!) at the airport before you check-in to leave, collect the VAT. :thumbup:
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Zakar wrote:
Brumbieman wrote:
Zakar wrote:My...uh...friend is having similar thoughts.

His girlfriend doesn't mind too much about size etc, but would like a diamond. It doesn't bloody help that her sister just got engaged to someone with a massive trustfund who splashed 50kish on the ring.


Zakar, is your 'friend' still looking for one?

A mate of mine is offloading an engagement ring. 18 carat yellow gold ring, VS clarity, G-colour. He got it for 6k, but you could probably get it off him for 4.5k, maybe less as he just wants to get rid of it.
Possibly. My friend is in the UK though...


You're on fb eh? We should have some mutual friends....

I'll get him to take a photo of it.
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Save the money for a house deposit I believe is the official rule.
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Sandstorm wrote:Buy the biggest stone less than flawless you can afford. Women don't know about clarity but they all show off "how big their diamond is"
Unless they've worked in the jewellery business, which I have... :nod:
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aitch@wasps wrote:
Sandstorm wrote:Buy the biggest stone less than flawless you can afford. Women don't know about clarity but they all show off "how big their diamond is"
Unless they've worked in the jewellery business, which I have... :nod:
:lol:
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The Management's ring is three diamonds.

I had it made by Cellini in Rose Crescent Cambridge. The middle one was bought for her by her former husband who brought it back in a mounted ring from Johannesberg.

Stuck out like a sore thumb. Awful.

I added a couple either side and it nestles nicely in now.

Got the odd aghast look from some who thought it wrong to have another man's diamond on her finger, but it's part of her history.

I'm not bothered at all. I'll pop a piccy up when she's about.

You want to see grandma's five stoner. It's a bit dated style wise. I'm probably having it reset.
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A5D5E5 wrote:
You having to brag about rolexes (again) and cars (again) on an engagement ring thread is surprising though - this thread almost seems tailor made for your unique "contribution". I thought we would at least get a story about your man in Antwerp and a trip to De Beers head office. Plus a rock so large it broke the Management's wrist the first time she wore it.

Frankly, I am disappoint.

globus wrote:Image
Better, but frankly a bit disappointing. Three "adequate" diamonds, one of which you didn't even buy. I never really had you down as a cheapskate.

Still I'm sure she loves it for the emotional value in any case.
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My friend has just finished the guest list conversation.

It did not go well.

My friend is starting to rue this silly societal tradition.
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henry wrote:My friend has just finished the guest list conversation.

It did not go well.

My friend is starting to rue this silly societal tradition.
Your friend should wait until parents get involved in the guest list conversation. That's the interesting part.
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A5D5E5 wrote:
A5D5E5 wrote:
You having to brag about rolexes (again) and cars (again) on an engagement ring thread is surprising though - this thread almost seems tailor made for your unique "contribution". I thought we would at least get a story about your man in Antwerp and a trip to De Beers head office. Plus a rock so large it broke the Management's wrist the first time she wore it.

Frankly, I am disappoint.

globus wrote:Image
Better, but frankly a bit disappointing. Three "adequate" diamonds, one of which you didn't even buy. I never really had you down as a cheapskate.

Still I'm sure she loves it for the emotional value in any case.
That's the point.

This is not about money.

I'll not bother posting her eternity ring details, nor the watch she's got.

Now cleverclogs, try and work out the necklace.

Do remember, I used to be a poor student. As Liberace once famously said about the twinkling diamonds on his fingers "That's what you get when you practice".

I practised a lot. I'm not a cheapskate.

I've removed the insurance value from the statement.

You could possibly buy a house with it.
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x(

It's like someone sucked the funny from Mitty.
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globus wrote:Image
It's a bit dated and the rocks are on the small side, but other than that it's grand I suppose.

I reckon it would get f**ked back in my face to be honest.

....








;)
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RWC2015 wrote:
henry wrote:My friend made the foolish error of proposing without getting the ring first.

So is currently involved in both negotiating a budget (which is awkward) and feigning interest in all things ring-related.
There have been stories told to my friend by his partner along the lines of "my friend's partner just proposed with a plastic ring which a gas altogether, what a card hahaha, but then they had great fun shopping together for ages and ages and ages".

So yeah, I think I'm just gonna buy it myself. If she hates it she can bring it back.
There was no fcuking way I was going to go out and spend a large wedge of cash on my missus for something when I knew she'd hate whatever I picked out. So I went the cheapo Amazon route, and was proven right when she didn't like the one I picked out (I also totally screwed up the size).

Fortunately, I was working long hours way out in the middle of nowhere at the time, so didn't get roped into too much ring shopping. We also decided to spend more on things like the food etc at the wedding than on the rings, which ended up being a very good choice.
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globus wrote:I've removed the insurance value from the statement.

You could possibly buy a house with it.
You are sooooo defensive.

By the way, you ain't buying a house with 1/3rd of a gram of flawed, slightly yellow diamond off cuts.
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globus wouldn't be the same if he tamed the exhibitionist, displays of self indulgence on here. He lives up to his persona and doesn't ever get nasty at anyone. He's a fixture on the board that we're better off with than without.

What was the valuation of the managements ring?
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henry wrote:My friend has just finished the guest list conversation.

It did not go well.

My friend is starting to rue this silly societal tradition.
London posters haven't fared too well I take it.
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henry wrote:My friend has just finished the guest list conversation.

It did not go well.

My friend is starting to rue this silly societal tradition.
My friend is still humming and hawing, but he is formulating a plan which may be executed this month.
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RWC2015 wrote:So my buddy was asking me for a bit of advice there. He is feeling quite unsure about things and is trying to get them straight in his head, and doesn't therefore want to ask his real life friends for advice because he is trying to be discrete.
You contemptible piece of faeces. You, your 'friend' and his airhead moll GF would do their best work as fertiliser for the rice paddies.

Regarding your 'friend's' first world problem, I make no apologies for being more concerned about the several food crises that have been triggered in 2015/2016 by extreme weather events due to the climate fueled El Nino. You probably heard about the severe droughts affecting several countries in the Horn of Africa, southern Africa, eastern and southern Asia, Central America and the Caribbean? Probably made big news in Canada due the huge contribution from your filthy tar sands to climate change and the morally repugnant regime in place until recently under the Harper administration.

This is just a tiny little taste and foreshadowing of things to come so get used to it.

And meanwhile: you, your friend and his GF can die in a fire.
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I have to say I didn't know you could insure Ratners' baubles.
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fatcat wrote:
henry wrote:My friend has just finished the guest list conversation.

It did not go well.

My friend is starting to rue this silly societal tradition.
London posters haven't fared too well I take it.
:lol: now for my internet friends table

It's the girl's day, don't even bother trying to fight it
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I've removed the insurance value from the statement.

You could possibly buy a house with it.
For a 1carat rock - must be cheap to buy houses in Oundle
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Duff Paddy wrote:


I've removed the insurance value from the statement.

You could possibly buy a house with it.
For a 1carat rock - must be cheap to buy houses in Oundle
Of course. Not. Depends where the house is.

It might be a surprise to you that my wife and I are not particularly ostentatious! She has got another rock that's sizeable but maybe the big prize is her necklace.
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8)
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:uhoh:

My friend decided against the advice of the plums on here and allowed his significant other to select a ring of her choosing. Not for her the safety and sanity of Hatton Garden. Oh no. On the plus side, having spent all his money on some rocks (one of which you can't even see) and some metal, he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.
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henry wrote::uhoh:

My friend decided against the advice of the plums on here and allowed his significant other to select a ring of her choosing. Not for her the safety and sanity of Hatton Garden. Oh no. On the plus side, having spent all his money on some rocks (one of which you can't even see) and some metal, he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.
:lol:
Bought a stone so she could design the ring. Returning the stone as she wants an emerald cut. Who knew?
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RWC2015 wrote:
henry wrote::uhoh:

My friend decided against the advice of the plums on here and allowed his significant other to select a ring of her choosing. Not for her the safety and sanity of Hatton Garden. Oh no. On the plus side, having spent all his money on some rocks (one of which you can't even see) and some metal, he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.
:lol:
Bought a stone so she could design the ring. Returning the stone as she wants an emerald cut. Who knew?
I won't bore you with the details but needless to say your plight does not surprise my friend who has now become a reluctant expert in the provenance, selection, cutting, polishing and fixing of diamonds. The poor bankrupt bastard.
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henry wrote:
RWC2015 wrote:
henry wrote::uhoh:

My friend decided against the advice of the plums on here and allowed his significant other to select a ring of her choosing. Not for her the safety and sanity of Hatton Garden. Oh no. On the plus side, having spent all his money on some rocks (one of which you can't even see) and some metal, he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.
:lol:
Bought a stone so she could design the ring. Returning the stone as she wants an emerald cut. Who knew?
I won't bore you with the details but needless to say your plight does not surprise my friend who has now become a reluctant expert in the provenance, selection, cutting, polishing and fixing of diamonds. The poor bankrupt bastard.
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henry wrote:
RWC2015 wrote:
henry wrote::uhoh:

My friend decided against the advice of the plums on here and allowed his significant other to select a ring of her choosing. Not for her the safety and sanity of Hatton Garden. Oh no. On the plus side, having spent all his money on some rocks (one of which you can't even see) and some metal, he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.
:lol:
Bought a stone so she could design the ring. Returning the stone as she wants an emerald cut. Who knew?
I won't bore you with the details but needless to say your plight does not surprise my friend who has now become a reluctant expert in the provenance, selection, cutting, polishing and fixing of diamonds. The poor bankrupt bastard.
My friend has also endured a crash course in geology. He can speak fluently on the difference between the IGI and EGL grading systems :|
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henry wrote:
RWC2015 wrote:
henry wrote::uhoh:

My friend decided against the advice of the plums on here and allowed his significant other to select a ring of her choosing. Not for her the safety and sanity of Hatton Garden. Oh no. On the plus side, having spent all his money on some rocks (one of which you can't even see) and some metal, he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.
:lol:
Bought a stone so she could design the ring. Returning the stone as she wants an emerald cut. Who knew?
I won't bore you with the details but needless to say your plight does not surprise my friend who has now become a reluctant expert in the provenance, selection, cutting, polishing and fixing of diamonds. The poor bankrupt bastard.
I know a gemsetter who lives very close to you if that helps
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happyhooker wrote:
henry wrote:
RWC2015 wrote:
henry wrote::uhoh:

My friend decided against the advice of the plums on here and allowed his significant other to select a ring of her choosing. Not for her the safety and sanity of Hatton Garden. Oh no. On the plus side, having spent all his money on some rocks (one of which you can't even see) and some metal, he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.
:lol:
Bought a stone so she could design the ring. Returning the stone as she wants an emerald cut. Who knew?
I won't bore you with the details but needless to say your plight does not surprise my friend who has now become a reluctant expert in the provenance, selection, cutting, polishing and fixing of diamonds. The poor bankrupt bastard.
I know a gemsetter who lives very close to you if that helps

Suitably expensive i hope.
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bimboman wrote:
happyhooker wrote:
henry wrote:
RWC2015 wrote:
henry wrote::uhoh:

My friend decided against the advice of the plums on here and allowed his significant other to select a ring of her choosing. Not for her the safety and sanity of Hatton Garden. Oh no. On the plus side, having spent all his money on some rocks (one of which you can't even see) and some metal, he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.
:lol:
Bought a stone so she could design the ring. Returning the stone as she wants an emerald cut. Who knew?
I won't bore you with the details but needless to say your plight does not surprise my friend who has now become a reluctant expert in the provenance, selection, cutting, polishing and fixing of diamonds. The poor bankrupt bastard.
I know a gemsetter who lives very close to you if that helps

Suitably expensive i hope.
Really not.
He's an odd human being. My ex tighthead prop, behaves like a complete neanderthal, also a qualified scaffolder. On the side he makes truly exquisite rings for not a huge amount. I know at least 6 people including one of my sisters who's rings he's made! *insert your own euphemism here*
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That's very kind but as I said, not for my friend is the way of purchasing diamond and ring separately. Oh no. My friend purchased completed ring, complete with hidden pink diamond, from a 'boutique' off Idiot Avenue, right next to Mugs' Place, in that part of town you should absolutely never purchase anything of value unless you're an Arab, a hip hop star or a fecking footballer.
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henry wrote:That's very kind but as I said, not for my friend is the way of purchasing diamond and ring separately. Oh no. My friend purchased completed ring, complete with hidden pink diamond, from a 'boutique' off Idiot Avenue, right next to Mugs' Place, in that part of town you should absolutely never purchase anything of value unless you're an Arab, a hip hop star or a fecking footballer.
I'll be sure to mention your churlish behaviour in my speech.
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happyhooker wrote:
henry wrote:That's very kind but as I said, not for my friend is the way of purchasing diamond and ring separately. Oh no. My friend purchased completed ring, complete with hidden pink diamond, from a 'boutique' off Idiot Avenue, right next to Mugs' Place, in that part of town you should absolutely never purchase anything of value unless you're an Arab, a hip hop star or a fecking footballer.
I'll be sure to mention your churlish behaviour in my speech.
:lol:
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henry wrote:he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.

He should get her parents to pay for it. :thumbup:
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henry wrote:
happyhooker wrote:
henry wrote:That's very kind but as I said, not for my friend is the way of purchasing diamond and ring separately. Oh no. My friend purchased completed ring, complete with hidden pink diamond, from a 'boutique' off Idiot Avenue, right next to Mugs' Place, in that part of town you should absolutely never purchase anything of value unless you're an Arab, a hip hop star or a fecking footballer.
I'll be sure to mention your churlish behaviour in my speech.
:lol:
Classic foruming ! *smug 'confirmed batchelor', mode*.
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Leinsterman wrote:
henry wrote:he has absolutely no money for the wedding. So that's postponed indefinitely.

He should get her parents to pay for it. :thumbup:
Fortunately, my friend's in-laws-to-be have yet to make any sort of statement on the subject. Which, I suppose, could be an indication of their enthusiasm for this union.
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