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TQoET wrote:
moosehead wrote:
TQoET wrote:
Kiwias wrote:
TQoET wrote: Thanks Winnie; thanks Kiwias - I really appreciate the comments. I feel quite emotional. :thumbup:
I have been awake since 4am trying to convince my wife, who has mild depression, to calm down after she woke in a panic -- her left foot was numb and she was scared that either she would need the foot amputated or she was in mid-stroke and would be paralysed. When in depression, the mind clearly works in a different way.
It sure does; and that is part of a problem I am coming to terms with - I cannot even begin to understand what my son is going through and I worry that he feels that he is dealing with it alone.

Sorry to hear about your wife, too.
I seem to have issues with obsessive compulsive crap.... and high anxiety.
For me i need routines.... lots of exercise.... less booze and caffeine if possible. I also write to do lists each evening that i have ready for my morning start up.... Self talk and breathing exercises....

Seems like anxiety/depression is so prevalent nowdays.. Is it to do with modern diet or is just the pace of modern life that is causing it....

Wish you and your family all the best and hopefully things get better for you all soon.
Thanks Moosehead - you seem to have a system going that works well for you. :thumbup:

I agree, it does seem very prevalent - now that I am talking about this with people, I have been amazed at the number of people I know who seem to have had their own experiences; in some cases, close friends who have been dealing with it for years.

I suspect that in the past people didn't understand what was affecting them and so just coped as best the could. Being told to 'just pull yourself together.'

Your last point is insightful, I think that it's like many things we're just starting to understand a spectrum and everyone of course has some depression and anxiety, remind your boy that he having perfectly natural issues, he has more stress hormones and maybe a sharper response to them, and chemically that can over ride seretonin and make him low.

Fingers crossed he will grow out of the stage, but don't be afraid of medication nor therapy and it can be very affective.

Good luck
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bimboman wrote:
Your last point is insightful, I think that it's like many things we're just starting to understand a spectrum and everyone of course has some depression and anxiety, remind your boy that he having perfectly natural issues, he has more stress hormones and maybe a sharper response to them, and chemically that can over ride seretonin and make him low.

Fingers crossed he will grow out of the stage, but don't be afraid of medication nor therapy and it can be very affective.

Good luck
Thanks, Bimbo - much appreciated.
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Just read this in the Guardian, its an excellent initiative and exactly the sort of no frills approach that would appeal to many young men in particular


https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyl ... ks-for-men
http://andysmanclub.co.uk/
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I just got off the phone with my family from back home.
The cancer has spread to my mother's brain without anyone realising.
Multiple masses.

I'm in shock.
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Sorry to hear that. It’s a shit disease that impacts so many families. Stay strong.
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Floppykid wrote:I just got off the phone with my family from back home.
The cancer has spread to my mother's brain without anyone realising.
Multiple masses.

I'm in shock.
:( Sorry to hear that man, keep strong
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Floppykid wrote:I just got off the phone with my family from back home.
The cancer has spread to my mother's brain without anyone realising.
Multiple masses.

I'm in shock.
Damn, sorry to hear that.

F*ck cancer.

Kia kaha.
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Thanks guys, having to work out emergency flights back, reaarrange everything and organise long distance with my partner.
It's been awful and it's only going to get worse.

My mom's texts have been slurred and off the past few days and I break down weeping each time I read them.
It's horrible.
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That’s tough. f**king cancer
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Floppykid wrote:I just got off the phone with my family from back home.
The cancer has spread to my mother's brain without anyone realising.
Multiple masses.

I'm in shock.
Go home. She might not have long left. God speed.
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Floppykid wrote:I just got off the phone with my family from back home.
The cancer has spread to my mother's brain without anyone realising.
Multiple masses.

I'm in shock.

My thoughts are with you, hate that b*stard disease
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Ah mate, sorry to hear that. An absolute shit of a disease and I wish your mum all the comfort possible.

To you and your family, kia kaha.
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Terrible news Floppykid - make the most of the time. I lost my Mum a year ago. Came over and spent Christmas with her and planned a Christmas in July. 5 days later back on a plane to spend 10 days with her on DNR after she had a stroke. As gut wrenching as it was knowing we had spent that time at Christmas helped so much.
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I wish you strength FK. Was coming here to have a rant about my shitty life. Seems irrelevant now.
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Safe home. Horrible way to be traveling. Talk to/with anyone who'll listen.

Especially your Mum.
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Ok, so some relatively good news.
It was one tumour and she was rushed into surgery and they seemingly got it all.

It's not a cure all because brain cancer unfortunately incredibly insidious it seems, but it's worked for now and she's still the same person she was going into surgery.

Thankful for what it's given us and thankful for the speed and skill of the surgeon. Amazing really.

Finally, for Bloutoria, please feel free to share whatever's getting you down cause I know from experience I've felt as bad/even worse from things less shocking or more "mundane" than this. It's what the thread's for.
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Floppykid

That is indeed good news.
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FK :thumbup: all the best to you and yours.
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That's better news Floppy, all the best.
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Got it like Michael Douglas no doubt.

In all seriousness I am sorry to hear that. I know you will fight like hell for your kids’ sake.
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EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt :x Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that
Very sorry to hear it ER.
All I can say from my experience is things can be an absolute emotional roller coaster with the big C.
The doctors and every level of medical staff have been excellent though, so I trust you'll be in good hands.

You'll be licking gee again in no time.
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Sorry to hear that, ER. Wishing you all the best
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EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt :x Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that
Well hell shit and buggery, ER. A poor pre-Easter present, that.

My bro-in-law was handed similarly crap news quite a few years back. He's still above-ground, cancer-free, working (not necessarily a good thing, admittedly) and not talking like a dalek. I hope this turns out to be your story.

Working optional, of course.
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Tough news ER - that sucks.
Mate of mine had the same a few years ago, and he's fully clear of cancer, fit and going strong at work now.

There'll be tears, but that's okay. They'll be MadDog tears, and cancer is the French - they may have got SOB banned, but our Ian still beat them :thumbup:
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EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt :x Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that
Well that is worrying to hear, mate. Hope it's early and treatable and you can spend many, many more hours being silly here with us ER.
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naki wrote:
EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt :x Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that
Well that is worrying to hear, mate. Hope it's early and treatable and you can spend many, many more hours being silly here with us ER.
Very much this :thumbup:
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Sorry to hear ER, best of luck.
YOYO wrote:
Floppykid wrote:
EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt :x Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that
Very sorry to hear it ER.
All I can say from my experience is things can be an absolute emotional roller coaster with the big C.
The doctors and every level of medical staff have been excellent though, so I trust you'll be in good hands.

You'll be licking gee again in no time.
That’s excellent news Fkd.
Yoyo, you seem over invested in ERs gee licking
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EverReady wrote:Thanks all. Haven't even told most of our family so in for a sad oul week really I'd say. Anyway I will be averagely brave in the face of it
All the best ER like everyone on the bored I’m rooting for you in your fight
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Best of wishes to you both floppy and ER.

(On second reading that sounds like it’s either their birthday or they are a gay couple who just got engaged so not the exact pithy and sombre mood I was after)
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EverReady wrote:Thanks all. Haven't even told most of our family so in for a sad oul week really I'd say. Anyway I will be averagely brave in the face of it
That's crappy news. Best of luck you good man.
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Ah shite.

I'd say chin up, but I wouldn't want to be accused of telling an expert how best to do what they clearly do best.
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Eeiiiish... best wishes to you both, FK and ER.

Tomorrow is the one year anniversary of losing my father to cancer (and also, because my father had a wicked sense of timing, their wedding anniversary) and my mother has started saying very dark and depressed things, commensurate with the overwhelming grief she is feeling all over again.

Bad times.
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EverReady wrote:Thanks all. Haven't even told most of our family so in for a sad oul week really I'd say. Anyway I will be averagely brave in the face of it
My boss had throat cancer about 2 years ago. Was pretty damn serious. She had chemo, radiation, got half her tongue and what not cut out. Shes back at work now, cancer free. Knocked her around quite a bit, she was over weight, now shes underweight, but she is back to living a happy normal life.

Might be a rough journey ahead, but chin up, good chance you will come out of it smelling like roses.
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YOYO wrote:How about positive vibes lads and lassies!!! Like if you have scrotum cancer you probably don’t want to hear a story about your best friends uncle Jim having it amputated!
Why? Just lop your scrotum off and become a woman. Its the in thing. :o
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EverReady wrote:Floppy you sent the bad luck my way you cùnt :x Have been diagnosed with throat fùcking cancer in the last few weeks. Tests on going and will find out how shit next week. Must get off PR tbf and take up yoga or some shit like that
Yerra, balls.

Sorry to hear that. You're a tough lad - you'll bate the shite out of it. I've no doubt.

Stay strong, lad.
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On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews? :(
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Salanya wrote:On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews? :(
very little is worse than this tbf
it kills your confidence, distracts you from your current role (if you have one), and the endless geeing yourself up process so that you appear to be a good candidate - gaaaaah !

my tip for this whole process is not to try to smash through loads of aplications in one hit, don't feel bad about zapping a 'jobs you may like' auto email in case you miss a goodie, and just liken it to going out on the pull and yes you will get blown out a lot, but the next one you ask may well be 'the one'

hopefully this will cheer you up Salanya:
Spoiler: show
go on, admit it, you were expecting something rude here ! good luck anyways, I start my new job in a few weeks for a measly 30% pay rise plus car, but have recently just gone through this exact same process
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Is that really you Yeeb?! :shock: - Good luck with the new job.

I resigned from my job, and now have 2 weeks left to find a new job and a new home. So the circumstances are the killer here.

Had a second interview last week, but still haven't heard back - apparently the GM is away. Got an interview tomorrow, and had a call that I would get details for an interview on Thursday, but still haven't received the info for this. And then another interview next Tuesday. All decent jobs, but some are better locations or pay better.
It's the whole mindfuk on the possible scenarios: what if they offer this before the other interview, what if I don't hear back from them, am I actually going to be good at any of these jobs?
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Salanya wrote:On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews? :(
Absolutely nothing.
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Diego wrote:
Salanya wrote:On a different note: is there anything worse than waiting to hear back from job applications/interviews? :(
Absolutely nothing.
A firm kick to the goolies?
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